Resources

Tools for the moments the eight dates don't cover.

⚡ For use during a disagreement 🗺️

ConflictMap

Open this in the middle of the argument, not afterwards. It is built to be used while you are still in it.

For a disagreement that keeps going round — the same three examples, the same stuck point, an hour gone and nothing settled. It lays out the three ways an argument can go from here: circling back on itself, escalating, or reaching understanding. You work out which one you are in right now, and what moves you out of it.

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🧭 Not sure which one you want? If nobody is upset right now and you are trying to work out what you each expect, that is Your Values instead. ConflictMap is for when it has already come up and you are going round in circles on it.

Nothing here scores your relationship. These tools structure a conversation; they do not judge it.